INFP Overthinking — Why it isn’t worth it!

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An INFP overthinking is a very common phenomenon. Does that person also want to be my friend or do they think I’m annoying? Will I even be good enough at this job or is it not worth applying? Is this blog post worth writing or will no one read it? As INFPs, our introverted and intuitive side has us living in our heads a lot.  Therefore, we tend to overthink and over-analyze even the littlest situations. INFP overthinking is a hard habit to stop, but it is important to be aware when we are doing it. Here are some good reasons why overthinking is not worth it.

The more we think about it, the longer we suffer.

So you finally mustered up the courage to go to a social event and it did not go as planned. You applied for your dream job or school, and you didn’t get it. You asked your crush out, and they rejected you. We could spend time after these events thinking about how awful we feel, but it doesn’t do anything for us. Of course, a good cry and a few days to mope is common after an upsetting event and might actually help. …

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INFP New Year’s Resolutions: 2017

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Goodbye and good riddance 2016. While creating my New Year’s resolutions for this year, I thought about how they relate to the INFP personality type. So for you procrastinating INFPs, I have conjured an INFP New Year’s Resolution list for you. Feel free to add these to your own lists if they aren’t there already.

Do that “Creative Thing” more.

Whether it is drawing, writing, singing, or dancing, every INFP enjoys some creative task. They also struggle with doing it consistently. Maybe you are discouraged because you are not the best at it. Maybe you are overwhelmed with all the other things in your life that take up time. Perhaps you spend too much time moping and feeling emotional, getting nothing done. No matter the reason, you know you’d be happier if you spent more time being creative. I know you can give me ten excuses why you can’t. Just know, you probably want to do that creative thing more.

Don’t Spend Your Time on Shitty People. 

Yeah, I’m talking about that person you have given many chances to and forgiven many times. If someone makes you feel bad more than they make you feel happy, consider distancing yourself from …

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Thoughts on INFPs and Routines

As an INFP, I have a love-hate relationship with routines. I have always been envious of others who can lay out a schedule for themselves, and follow it to a T. Previously, I wrote about how INFPs are good at starting things without finishing, and I do just that with routines. I can write out a pretty schedule, make all the calendars and to-do lists in the world, but that’s where I get stuck. It is just so easy to shove it aside after awhile.

I sometimes find routines so limiting. They can keep me from being able to spend my time doing things I want to be doing after all. And when routines are not flexible, it can be miserable.  I am someone who could be perfectly happy spending a whole day in my day dreams, not being very productive. I just don’t feel this sense of urgency that I need to be productive every second of every day. This makes a schedule not a top priority for me. I like the freedom of being able to use my time in a way that will make me happy. That can often mean falling out of routine or off …

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Starting Things And Never Finishing

All my fellow INFPs can probably relay at least many handfuls of times where they started something they never end up finishing. We go into things with such passion and an honest intention of completing them. However, after a few weeks, days, or just hours, we get distracted by something else. This distraction can lead to other distractions. Soon, the passionate project we want to complete continues to only be an idea in our head. INFP seems to stand for I Never Finish Projects.

What Causes Us To Not Finish Projects

1. Aiming too High

Sometimes we create a very robust idea that would take a lot of time and effort. It is not to say it can’t be done, but it just won’t be done as fast as an INFP would like: immediatelySometimes if there is a deadline set for us, the grandiose ideas can’t be accomplished in that time frame. This can cause an INFP to give up completely on the idea because it will never be as good as they wanted. Or they will put things off because they are afraid they won’t be able to meet those expectations. I personally think the phrase “lazy …

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